“WHAT DO I WEAR?” is likely one of the first questions that comes to mind when you think about going on a first date with a guy you’ve been pining after. You want to look sexy, but not too sexy. You want to look put together, but not like Martha Stewart put together. It’s all about finding that outfit that makes you look your best, but that also looks effortless and appropriate. So, where to start?
While no one should have to alter their style completely, or dress according to what’s trendy, first impressions do count. If your style is normally a bit over the top, you might want to tone it down for a first date. Know that even the most open-minded and laid-back guy will still probably have some type of opinion on what you’re wearing, so keep your outfit choice tame and somewhat neutral. Leave your thigh-high patent leather boots or “Vote For Romney” tee at home for this one.
If you’re uncomfortable with what you’re wearing on a first date, it’ll probably be obvious to your guy. Uncomfortable clothes will most likely make you fidget and fuss with your outfit, and will also make you feel less confident about the way you look. If you’re going to wear a new outfit on a first date, give it a test run first by wearing the outfit for a few hours before date day. Same goes for shoes. If you’re not comfortable wearing the shoes at home, you won’t be comfortable wearing them on a first date. Find an outfit that is both stylish and comfortable to look and feel your best on a first date.
Most guys appreciate a little modesty. They don’t want to see all the goods on the first date. A slow reveal of your best features is the best way to reel a guy in, so don’t opt for a low-plunging, cleavage-revealing top or a barely there skirt for the first date no matter how many Pilates classes you did that week to get sleek and toned. That being said, you also shouldn’t show up wearing a turtleneck and sweatpants. Wear something figure flattering, but also first date appropriate. A guy that wants to see you for a second date is most likely into more than just your body, so he won’t mind working up to seeing what’s under those layers.
Going to a baseball game? Leave the heels at home. Heading out to a bar? Opt for a small purse instead of a gigantic bag. Guys will appreciate you dressing appropriately for the location of the first date, because it will ultimately mean you are comfortable and don’t look out of place. During the first date, most guys will likely be thinking how they can see you fitting into their day-to-day life if they continue seeing you. Don’t give him a reason to think that you’re high maintenance or don’t know how to adapt by dressing inappropriately for certain situations.
A little makeup can accentuate your best facial features, but too much can make you look like a clown. Pick one feature to highlight, like your eyes or your lips, and then opt for more subdued make-up for the rest of your face. Your guy will appreciate being able to see your face, not the overdone, dolled-up version of it. The same goes for accessories like hats, bracelets, necklaces and earrings. Pick one statement accessory for the first date and leave the rest at home. Too much going on will distract just distract your guy from enjoying your company.
It all comes down to looking natural, but with a little touch of glamor. Let your guy know that you can hang with the guys, but still be a girly girl sometimes. A great pair of jeans that hugs your body at just the right spots, a casual up-do, or a great pair of dangly earrings give you a feminine touch while still looking comfortable and natural. When in doubt for an evening date, pick out a cute LBD (little black dress) and add some cute shoes. Let the date be about your connection, not about your clothes.